gains form growth

Summary 

The film the "call me by your name"tells the story of It was the summer of 1983. 17-year-old Jewish American Elio lives in northern Italy with his parents. Elio's father invited 24-year-old graduate student Oliver to live with his family during the summer vacation and help with his academic work.Elio and oliver met each other that summer. They went to swimming,reading,traveling together, and spending a lot of time in a sparsely populated and beautiful Italian town.As Oliver's term comes to an end, he and Elio both find themselves overcome by uncertainty and longing. Elio gradually realized the most true feelings in his heart. Under the patient guidance of his parents, he bravely accepted his true self .

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Response 

Why choose this story? I don't think this is a homosexuality film. This is a complicated story that involves the depressed emotions of each of us as we grow up, and we often ignore it. Those depressive longing and fears of passions,One by one in this story. It looks like a look back in my youth. and because of this look back, we realized how much we missed. When I watched this movie,I was attracted by the slow pace of this story and the slow pace of the Italian town in the 80s. especially the open attitude of Elio parents to their children's active guidance in education. fruit trees in the backyard of Elio's parents' home,every summer everyone can drink fresh peach juice and then discuss academic together.reading books by the pool, jump into the pool when tired, fresh fruits can be picked at any time, who sleep under the fruit tree waiting for inspiration.
The story uses two actors' dialogue and simple body language to explain the real emotional changes in the hero's heart.however, most of the time, our lives are not as fanatical as drama, and it is difficult for us to truly express our feelings.Just like elio doesn't know how to deal with a relationship with Oliver.fortunately,Elio has an open-minded parent. Elio can be the most true self,and most impressed is Elio's father told him at the end of the story“How you live your life is your business. Just remember: our hearts and our bodies are given to us only ones. Before you know it, your heart‘s worn out，as your body there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it.”made me though about the meaning of life.
That is why I chose this story.

Question  

What are the gain in growing up ?

How to accept and become a true self?