The mothers who regret having children
What I read Research found that 8% of women regret to be a mother. A few mothers can reveal about it. Three women were interviewed . First, Recheal said that she didn't have mother instinct and boring to feed children. She felt more badly because she was curious why no one feel the same as her. Second, Alison told that having children was not what she thought. She did not have her own time and felt that it was not fair having to responsible for other happiness as her priority. She lost living time in way what she want for 15 years. Lastly, Joy prefers to look after her business. She also thinks others lie that they love raising children.
___________________________________
My response
I would not like to have childern in the future. Now I am single and I know that I do not have maternal instinct. I just feel the same as interviewee even I do not have experience about having children. When my collages take their children to office because no one can not look after them at home, I do not want to take care of them. I do not know what to play or talk with them. At first, I think It is just because I am the only child in house. I think that if I married with someone, I will be create motherhood that time. But, these article told me that it was not what most people believe. I feels thank you interviewees to tell the truth.
Some people might against this opinion and claim that if you do not have children when you get retire no one with take care of you. You might feel very lonely at the retirement age. But, I do not agree with this idea. I think if I have not married or I do not have children, I am able to save money for my retirement. When I am getting older, I can move to good nursing home. In the next 30 years, I think this kind of business will be very boom because we are in aging society.
In conclusion, I feel thankful for this article because I do not read about this kind of this opinion. No one would like to share openly about it because it makes the speaker seems selfishness and they concern about their children think about what they feel. This article will help a family make the best decide about having children or not.
Some people might against this opinion and claim that if you do not have children when you get retire no one with take care of you. You might feel very lonely at the retirement age. But, I do not agree with this idea. I think if I have not married or I do not have children, I am able to save money for my retirement. When I am getting older, I can move to good nursing home. In the next 30 years, I think this kind of business will be very boom because we are in aging society.
In conclusion, I feel thankful for this article because I do not read about this kind of this opinion. No one would like to share openly about it because it makes the speaker seems selfishness and they concern about their children think about what they feel. This article will help a family make the best decide about having children or not.
___________________________________
My question
Do you want to have childern in the future? Why?
___________________________________
Reference
- Jean Mackenzie. (2018, April 3).The mothers who regret having children. BBC News. Retrieve from : http://www.bbc.com/news/education-43555736
From my perspective, I oppose from your view. First, I prefer to have children in the future because I would like to see every steps of human development. Also, the family atmosphere should be more warm because of children's behavior, and they are so shine and joyful. Moreover, I prefer to raise them up to be good people, and they will be my friends for shopping and taking care each other.
ReplyDeleteI think in the future I may be have children, but before I have to have their I must have a stable job, good financial status, time enough for take care them. Because of my being raised and growing up every day I know the fatigue of parents and paid a lot of cost of parenting especially education.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed Ween's summary and response. I had seen that article, but had not read it because like increasing numbers of women today, I've decided not to have children, which seems to me a perfectly reasonable choice. We might be driven by our biology to have children, or more usually we are driven by our biology to have sex, and children are often the result of that.
ReplyDeleteI think both options are fine, but men and women should not be thought to have made a bad decision for choosing not to have children that they either are unwilling or unable to properly care for. There are millions of children living in appalling conditions because their parents did not worry about whether they would be able to give their children a good life or not, and that seems seriously irresponsible to me.
That said, I like the children of my friends and brother and sisters, but to be honest, I'm also glad when, after a few hours, I can say "Goodbye" and leave them with the parents! Children are certainly exhausting.
Like Ween, I was impressed at the honesty of women in a Western nation who had the courage to come forward and express their reservations about their decision to have children, and it is, or should, always be a decision. Having children by accident also seems irresponsible to me: they should be planned, wanted and prepared for.
And to start my Songkran break, I'm taking an old friend and his 11-year-old son to Chiangmai tomorrow. His son is great, and I enjoy spending time with both of them, and perhaps spoiling him a bit, but I also booked us two rooms at the hotel so that he doesn't have to put up with me for the entire time we are in Chiangmai. And then I'm going to Australia next Thursday, where an important part of the visit is catching up with my many nieces and nephews. (My family is no danger of extinction because three of my eight brothers and sisters have decided not to have children.)