Nowadays , people prefer living together without getting married because they pay less attention to religious matters. Also, it's easier to end a relationship if you don't get married. This trend continues growing as we can see in 'Married Couples Are No Longer a Majority, Census Finds' on the New York times (Travernise,2011).
Brookings institution presents that only 48 percents of American households in 2010 got married. This is the lowest statistic in American family's evolution. This happen because more women jointed labour markets and society is more secular.Another change is that women with high education are more likely to get married than those who have a high school diploma because of employment instability. Futhermore, the number of young couples living together are increasing. "The biggest change for the decade was the jump in households headed by women without husbands — up by 18 percent in the decade" said the senior demographer of Brookings institution(2011, ¶ 14).
In my view, marriage is not the most important part of couples' relationship. It is just the beginning step which has nothing to do with maintaning the relationship. Plenty of couples that had gorgeous wedding ceremony ended up getting divorce within short period. people should start their relationships when they are mature and ready. Planning is nescessary for instance, financial planning, having baby planning, child's education planning and so on. Young people who have no job and still study should be cautious about living with your partner. It can lead to several kinds of serious problems such as pregnancy. Inaddition, their kids will be suffered from poverty because their parents don't have any degrees and have difficulty finding a good job.
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on the New York times .Retrieved May 28,2011 from http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/26/us/26marry.html?_r=2&src=me&ref=us
Before getting married, there are many things that we have to plan in advance for future. For some reason, women feel like ‘Marriage’ is the top success in her life, but I think they’re wrong. I agree with Pree’s idea that it’s just the beginning step. The couple has to learn about each other. In Thailand, I don’t think parents will be happy to see their grown children live together with their partner before getting married. However there is some advantage, there is more opportunity to learn about each other, try to adjust them to live happily together before they develop relationship and take it more serious. Disadvantage is couple might lack of interest to get marry legally and easy to break up because there is no commitment for their relationship.
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ReplyDeleteI agree that young people can separate very easy because they have no legal bond. All Dorms(excepting the oldest one) outside my campus are available for young couples. The owners didn't mind if students live together as partners. They only want to make maximum profit.Moreover,they frequently put boys into girls' dorm when those room are available and no girls want to stay. My friends live next to couple's room. They fight a lot and she can't study at all. She told me that she was scared because they through many stuffs to another.
As I read Pree's post, having already seen the headline in the news, I thought of how much people's ideas and social expectations have changed in my own life.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was growing up, it was a scandal to live with someone, or even have sex, until after marriage, although I suspect that a lot of couples did sneak in a bit of sex when they could. It just wasn't done. And divorce was also something shameful.
My own brothers and sisters were already different - they didn't live with their partners for years before marriage, but it was normal, and my parents accepted it as normal, that they were having sex as well as dinner and movies before marriage. And three out of four who got married are now divorced - again, the divorces had the blessing of my parents, who would never have ended their own 50 year marriage.
And when it comes to my nieces and nephews now in their twenties, they have all lived with their partners for periods varying from months to years, and none has ever mentioned marriage. Perhaps if they decide to have children, they might marry, but although at least a couple of their relationships have been serious for years now, there is no hint that any of them are thinking of marriage.
It makes me think that social attitudes, like technology, is changing at an ever faster rate. My youngest nieces and nephews, who are under 10, might have heard of CDs. But things like cassette tapes are ancient history and wholly unknown to them.
ON the whole, I think the changes, both technological and social, are in a positive direction, but there is still plenty of room to make things better in both areas.