In present day, technology is playing an increasing role in ourlifestyles. It is one of main factors that lead to other family-problems. Children become isolated and obsessive.Then becoming good parents,especially males,are not easy to be good father,even if they think they are. However,there is a course that trains males to be great father as we can see in the article "The Korean Dads' 12-steps Program" on New York Times(Laporte,2011)
Nicole Laporte reports that the Father Scool originated from christian group in South Korea due to helping korean men to relate to their own spouse and children with more emotionally. According to the article "Traditionally,in the Korean family,the father is very authoritarian"(2011,¶5) causes space and silence in family. There are 12 steps to recovery. Over the course of the program,the student have been asked to shair their issue that many of them have never dared to think about. Someone cried because of ignorant to their own kids. In2000,the program spreads to America through Korean immigrant and booms alarmingly around the country.
From that is mentioned above makes me knows that everywhere has this kind of problem,even through they are independent or traditional country. As the fathers spends most of time on work and hobbies, they also pay less attentionto their family. So the program is set to encourages in relationship in family. Obviously the 12 steps program is very useful for men who dont know how to star to talk with their family member. It gradually destroys the barrier. They will talk and participate more,and then they will know and understand each other better because of reducing the gap. As a result ,member will be close and wont shame to share their stories.
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References
Laporte.N(2011,May 6). The Korean Dads' 12-step Program New York Times.Retrieved May13,2011 from http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/08/magazine/mag-08Here-t.html?ref=world
A Training program to be a great father sounds interesting,especially,in the point they launched into this progrum only for men. In general, father has been expected to earn money for family, so that he can not have enough time to stay with their kids.In contrust,mother has much more time with their kids. However,nowadays,it is not rare for women to have their own job.So,a training program to be a great mother might be also needed in the future.
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ReplyDeleteDo you think perhaps that this is a common problem because all of the traditions causing this problem in different cultures are bad and in need of change to something better?
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ReplyDeleteI think this program is held for giving some good advice for Korean fathers. It's really good program for being a good father step by step. According to the article, now many Korean fathers ignore their responsibilities in families which cause several problems. One of the problems is the gap between father and child. This makes a child afraid of talking with parents. Also, they might misunderstand some issue in family. If they want to pretect a problem, they should realize that family is the most important role in society. So,the child can be a good or bad person, it depends on family.
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ReplyDeleteThe Christian group creates the great idea for Korean men. At least they are encouraged to be a good father step by step and realized how important to do their duty. It’s a good start, I like it.
It's good that someone can see how important to be a good father. Man has to work hard to support his family but he should manage his time too. The kids need to grow up in warm family. Both father and mother is the key person and they have to take responsibility for their kids. This is not only woman duty to take care of children. That’s why we called family. Father can be the good sample for your offspring to learn how to be strong, brave and manly. I think kids want to learn those parts from his/her father.
This problem occurs in cultures that dad takes charge of most important decisions. Children usually prefer consulting their moms to consulting their dads because mom take good care of them. Also, moms are more willing to help their children while dads often ignore their children.
ReplyDeleteThis problem occurs in cultures that dad takes charge of most important decisions. Children usually prefer consulting their moms to consulting their dads because mom take good care of them. Also, moms are more willing to help their children while dads often ignore their children.
ReplyDeleteHi Tune Eng!
ReplyDeleteI think it is very important that father must take care of their family because many childen are influenced by external factors such as friends, techology or movies. Then, children might not listen to their family so that is a serious problem. How can we slove this problem? parents must manage the time for their childen, even though, they have a lot of work to do. In addition, when parents talk to their children then they will open their mind to share with their family too. Lastly, parents should control their emotion while they are talking to them. I belive that both father and mother are important for children.
I agree with Kuriko.
ReplyDeleteThis program should be provided both father and mother. The good family is one of the foundations of social quality. Not only mother, but also father should look after children and to ensure the child is physically and mentally healthy as it is our next generation of adults and vitally important that we teach them the rules and accepted behavior in society. Moreover, parent should build relationship and give advices with offspring. It makes children don't shy to consult when they found the problem. However, not just attend this program, the important thing is parent should have enough time to take care their child.